Last month was for me a time of reflection. This is common, given that the end of the year represents a finish line, so to speak. Reflecting on what happened over to past twelve months feels natural.
What then should the beginning of the year represent? For many, or maybe mostly those most interested in selling something, the new year represents the time for resolution. Let’s convince folks that now is the time to resolve to make yourself a better you. Translated…1) you are in some way deficient, and 2) now is the time to do something about it. Ugh! I don’t know about you, but the end of what for many is a longish, possibly indulgent and likely emotionally trying experience is not the best time for snap judgements of self. To me, aside from the timing being terrible, the thinking behind resolving to do this or that specific thing is wrong too. Sure, you may succeed at keeping your new resolution, but does that make you a better you? Not necessarily. Your gain, or improvement in one thing might end up masking something else, or come at a cost you’ll end up needing to resolve to fix the following year. And if you don’t succeed? Well then, you’re a failure, right? Probably not. No thank you. I’ll pass.
What if, instead, the beginning of the year simply focused on assessment? How am I doing instead of what do I need to do? Take some time (January, at least) to think on that question while coming down from the holiday craziness. Figure out if you’re heading toward where you really want to be. And if not, why not? Let your head clear for a moment and then, when you’re ready, decide what you need to do. To me, this softer launch just feels better. I’ll trust that the changes I want or need to make will happen in due time.
Regardless of the approach you choose, I wish you all the best in 2023.
Happy New Year!